Buried anger is hard on the body. It's neither healthy nor fun. Here are some exercises to help channel and release a bad moment or a day.
You know what an angry person looks like. You have an idea because you have a set of memories of angry people, and you can recognize the physical manifestations of anger. You’ve been able to do this all your life. Anger lives in a body. It is not just an abstract thought pattern. It is physical. You know it when you see it—and feel it.
When we are angry, more blood flows to our arms and nearby muscles. The breath quickens, and the heart beats faster and harder. We tense up, meaning we tighten muscles, getting ready to fight. The neck tightens, and this reduces head movement, thereby reducing visual field. We get focused — tightly. It’s all about survival, and pleasure and affection are put on hold.
A flood of hormones instigates all of these changes. Once the hormones hit the bloodstream, they need to be utilized. Just saying “I will not be angry” won’t cut it — your chemistry has other plans for you.